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Reclaiming the Romance After the Roommate Phase

Reclaiming Romance After the Roommate Phase

By Connection, Resilience9 Comments

Have you and your spouse gone through the roommate phase?

Maybe it was after having a baby, or as you tried to get into the groove of an unfamiliarly hectic stage of life. Maybe it was following a crisis or event that threw you both for a loop. Perhaps it was simply the result of feeling less connected than you used to. Whatever your situation, it’s a common stage couples go through. The danger, of course, is that although you fall into it without even trying – getting out of it takes effort and intention. You can wait around for that magical moment when the spark suddenly reignites. Meanwhile, you’re settling deeper into the roommate rut and growing more distant by the day. Or you can be proactive. Here are some tips for reclaiming the romance and getting your marriage back. Read More

January 22, 2025
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Refresh These 3 Marriage Areas

Refresh These 3 Marriage Areas

By Relationship Dynamics5 Comments

Are there areas of your relationship that are feeling a bit stale? Nothing is broken, so to speak, but deep down you know it could be better. Whether you’re stuck in the same old routine, or you feel like there are better ways you could be doing things in your marriage, sometimes a refresh is just what you need.

A refresh doesn’t mean a total overhaul or reinvention – it’s finding simple ways to inject new life and energy into what already works. With that in mind, here are three areas to refresh in your marriage: Read More

January 15, 2025
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3 Leaves to Turn Over in Your Marriage

3 Leaves to Turn Over in Your Marriage

By Relationship Basics7 Comments

The trend of “new year, new me” seems to have come and gone. Why do we need to become a completely different person, after all? It’s a valid question. The idea doesn’t do much for your self-confidence, and honestly, can you really change the true essence of who you are? It’s unlikely.

What we really mean by “new me” is we want to improve our behaviors or actions in some way. In other words, we want to turn over a new leaf.
When it comes to your relationship with your spouse, this distinction holds true. Trying to change who your spouse is as a person is an exercise in futility. Instead you can both work on improving the way you act, behave, and respond within your marriage. And when you can get specific about those actions, they become much more executable – and lead to positive change in the dynamics of your relationship.

So you want to be a better spouse – okay, great! Well, where do you start? One way to think about it is to think of actions you want to do instead of something else. With that in mind, here are some specific “leaves” you can turn over to spark a positive shift in your marriage: Read More

January 8, 2025
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The Opposite of a Marriage Recap

The Opposite of a Marriage Recap

By Resilience4 Comments

The “Your Year in Retrospect”-type recaps are pretty popular these days. Deep down, we know they’re probably just clever marketing tactics, but we can’t help but be at least a little bit interested in seeing our listening/sleeping/purchasing/exercising habits quantified in an engaging way.

What if this was applied to your marriage? Of course, we don’t have someone tracking all of our marriage behaviors or a complex algorithm to analyze that data, and this might be for the best. However, we can’t deny that there is value in reflecting on the past – whether it’s a calendar year or another year of marriage. It’s a great way to learn more about yourself, your partner, and your relationship. (We wrote a whole post about that here.)

Okay, so maybe knowing you had seven arguments about weekend plans wouldn’t be the most helpful (or practical) thing. But what if we turned this idea on its head? What if we made it aspirational and forward-looking? How could we use this framework to quantify and set marriage goals for the year ahead? Read More

January 2, 2025
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Top 5 Posts of 2024

Our Top 5 Blog Posts of 2024

By Relationship BasicsNo Comments

Another year is coming to an end, and that means another year of blog posts have been sent out into the world for your consumption. Which posts captured your interest the most this year?

According to our stats, you were most into understanding how to navigate those imperfect times in your relationship – breaking out of unproductive communication patterns and getting to the root of why you’re feeling more annoyed or less connected than usual. Let’s count down the top five: Read More

December 26, 2024
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Avoiding the Post-Holiday Marriage Funk

Avoiding the Post-Holiday Marriage Funk

By Resilience5 Comments

You’ve probably heard of the post-holiday blues, but what about a post-holiday marriage funk? The idea is the same – after a couple weeks of indulging in the parties, festivities, treats, and fixings, the return to normalcy when it’s all over can seem like a very rude awakening. If you’re both feeling moody and irritable individually, it’s not far-fetched to think you might take it out on each other – or fall into some negative relationship habits. Needless to say, this isn’t the best way to start out the new year.

Of course, this outcome isn’t inevitable by any means. Starting off strong – with intention – can set a positive tone for the coming months. Wondering how to start now? Here are 4 tips to consider: Read More

December 18, 2024
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4 Truths About the Holidays as a Couple

4 Truths About the Holidays as a Couple

By Resilience3 Comments

The holidays mean different things to everyone. They can even hold different meaning to you from one year or one season to the next. Whether you start counting down the days six months out or you silently dread the festivities, the reality is that the holidays as a couple can be filled with joy – and be a difficult time of year, for a variety of reasons.

Gaining awareness of this duality – and the fact that it’s normal – can help. Here are four truths about experiencing the holidays as a couple. Read More

December 11, 2024
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Make Your Marriage a Sanctuary

Make Your Marriage a Sanctuary

By Relationship Dynamics3 Comments

At the end of a difficult or stressful day, is your marriage a soft place to land? Is it a comforting place you can turn to when you’re feeling down and out, vulnerable, or overwhelmed?

Of course we’d like to say the answer is always “yes,” but the reality is that sometimes marriage itself can be a source of stress and tension. While this is totally normal – and can actually be a positive sign of relationship growth – it’s definitely not a permanent state you want your marriage to be in.

Most of the time, we want our marriage to be that comforting home base we can turn to. So how can you make yours more of a sanctuary? Here are a five key tips. Read More

December 4, 2024
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3 Ways to Cultivate Gratitude in Your Marriage Daily

3 Ways to Cultivate Gratitude in Your Marriage Daily

By Relationship Basics, Resilience3 Comments

Be grateful. It’s a common mantra these days, and particularly at this time of year – and for good reason. Gratitude is associated with some pretty powerful effects, such as lower stress, higher resilience, and greater happiness overall. Research has found that these benefits extend to marriage as well, fostering positive feelings and stronger connection between spouses. And that’s something we can all get behind.

The key, of course, is making gratitude a consistent part of your daily life – a way of thinking and living instead of just something you focus on once a year. Wondering how to work on that? Here are 3 ways to add gratitude into your marriage every day. Read More

November 27, 2024
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4 Traditions to Start This Holiday Season

4 Traditions to Start This Holiday Season

By ConnectionOne Comment

The holiday season has a way of sneaking up on you. One minute you’re taking down the decorations and putting them in storage, and the next you’re taking them out all over again. Sometimes it feels like it’s hard to get ahead of it, especially if you had big intentions of incorporating some different things into your celebrations this year. Whether it’s trying new activities or switching things up from the usual traditions, you’ll want to start thinking about these things ahead of time, instead of waiting until the last minute.

With that in mind, we’ve rounded up four types of traditions to start this holiday season. Read More

November 20, 2024
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