We’re back with Part 2 of our Relationship Basics series. As we mentioned in Part 1, sometimes there’s no substitute for getting back to basics. It’s not uncommon to fall into bad habits over time. Reviewing the fundamentals and continuously working on these foundational relationship skills will help ensure your marriage stays strong. Let’s dive back in! Read More
Kids are heading back to school, building a foundation of the skills and knowledge that will carry them through life. Often at the start of the year and at certain points throughout, teachers will dedicate time to reviewing what’s already been covered. The purpose, of course, is to make sure students have the fundamentals down pat or that they’re retaining information before moving on to something new. When it comes to your marriage, do you need a review?
Sometimes there is no substitute for getting back to basics – those fundamental things that make all the difference in the quality of your relationship. As we go about our daily lives, we sometimes lose sight of these things and fall into bad habits. Over time, you start to feel the effect – things are just off between you or it feels like you’re in a rut. Not to worry! We’ve rounded up all the basics in one place, organized from A-Z. Read More
If you’re like most couples, you probably look forward to celebrating your wedding anniversary each year. And rightly so – another year of marriage is definitely something to toast to.
However, if you’ve been married for more than a few years, you’ve maybe found that wedding anniversaries are kind of like birthdays: at a certain point, it seems like only the big milestone years justify a big celebration; the in-between years sort of get downplayed or lost in the shuffle. But is 11 years of marriage any less of an accomplishment than 10? Not really, right?
Instead of falling into the habit of celebrating less as the years go by, we’d like to make the case for celebrating more. Why? Well, for starters, celebrations are opportunities to connect as a couple. The rituals and traditions that form out of regular celebrations become a touchstone in your relationship that strengthens your bond. Not only that, but celebrations help you focus on the positives – in life and in each other.
Unfortunately, you only have one wedding anniversary to celebrate every year, but it doesn’t have to end there. Here are some unconventional anniversaries and occasions to consider adding to your celebration calendar. Read More
Have you been a good friend to your spouse lately? This might sound like a silly question – you’re married after all. But hear us out: sometimes we forget to give our partner the same consideration and courtesies that we give our friends. Whether it’s a byproduct of seeing each other almost every day or being each other’s “default” person, it’s not uncommon to start skipping over the small kindnesses that normally characterize friendships. While this can be pretty harmless on occasion, falling into this habit continuously can erode the sense of mutual respect, care, and affection between you.
So how can you be a better friend to your spouse? Keep reading. Read More
Everyone is busy to some extent, right? In today’s world, it’s almost a badge of honor – the busier you are, the more productive you must be. While we know this isn’t necessarily true, there’s something to be said for the sense of accomplishment that can come from doing all the things. But the truth is, it can come with a cost – and it’s often your marriage that ends up paying the price.
Want to avoid this outcome? These are the biggest mistakes busy couples tend to make. Read More
Do you and your spouse like to fly by the seat of your pants, or do you like to plan things out and know what’s going to happen? Or maybe you’re a combination of both. Wherever you fall, the realities of day-to-day life often favor planning ahead. While it might not seem like the most practical way to live all the time, spontaneity can have a positive effect on your marriage. It fosters a sense of playfulness, strengthens your bond, builds flexibility, and combats complacency. If you’re looking for some realistic ways to add more spontaneity to your marriage, keep reading. Read More
Are you going through a hard season of marriage right now? Or have you come out on the other side of one?
It’s become pretty common to talk about marriage in terms of seasons. It’s actually a fitting way to frame the ebb and flow of your life together. Of course, this insinuates it’s not always smooth sailing, and if you can’t attest to that now, you’ll likely be able to at some point in your marriage.
When you’re in the thick of a hard season, it can seem like you’re navigating uncharted territory without a map. Where do we go from here? Are we the only ones going through this? Will things get better? It can feel isolating and discouraging, but you’re not alone.
In order to normalize your experiences and help you feel more prepared, we’re sharing some of the common hard seasons you might go through in your marriage, along with the keys to staying strong throughout them. Read More
Defensiveness in your relationship can be a vicious cycle. One of you makes a comment. The other person gets defensive and responds critically, causing the other person to get defensive in return. The longer this cycle continues, the harder it is to talk through issues and be open, authentic, and vulnerable with each other. So, how do you break out of this pattern? These are the key things to keep in mind: Read More
As a married couple, you probably spend a significant amount of time together, and that’s a good thing! Feeling highly connected to each other is a crucial part of a healthy marriage, and it’s hard to build that sense of intimacy when you don’t get to spend much time together. Across this very blog, you’ll find a multitude of posts detailing ways to prioritize togetherness, boost connection, and spend more time together. This begs the question: can you have too much of a good thing?
Surprisingly (or not), the answer is yes. As with many things in life, it’s all about balance. While high levels of closeness and connection can be a good thing, it needs to be counterbalanced by a sense of separateness as well. So how do you know if you need a little more time apart? Here are five signs to look for. Read More
