Summer is just around the corner, and it’s warming up even in the regions known for their frigid temps – like here in Minnesota! Because the winters are so long and cold, the locals tend to spend as much time outside as possible during the warmer months, and that includes dates! If you can relate, then keep reading for some of our favorite warm weather date ideas. Read More
Wedding season is upon us. Maybe you’re in the phase where it seems like everyone you know is getting hitched, and your weekends are booked. Maybe you’re at the tail end or completely out of that stage, with only a random wedding here and there. Wherever you’re at in this progression, it’s safe to say that being a wedding guest is a much different experience than being the ones getting married. You might think your only job is to show up, and that’s not totally wrong. But you can do better! Here are 4 underrated ways to be a great wedding guest: Read More
The weekend lies ahead of you – a blank slate of possibilities. Are you and your spouse on the same page about how to spend it? Think of the phrase, “That’s what the weekend is for.” To you, what is that, exactly? Is it for doing all the fun activities and outings you don’t have time for during the week? Is it for tackling your to-do list of chores and projects? Or is it all about relaxing and recharging at the end of a busy week and before starting the next?
The truth is, the way you want to spend the weekend might differ from what your spouse has in mind. You might have very different weekend mindsets overall, or even just from one weekend to the next. On their own, these preferences can cause conflict. Throw in a few unspoken expectations and less-than-stellar communication, and it’s a recipe for a disappointing weekend. If you and your spouse have experienced this before, then these tips are for you. Read More
How can you tell the seasons are changing? Aside from the calendar, you probably notice changes in the weather, the amount of sunlight streaming through the curtains in the morning, or the time you spend outdoors in the evening. Maybe the pace of your job or your kids’ schedules pick up or slow down. Holiday festivities get replaced by graduation parties and weddings.
How do you know when you’re transitioning to a new season in your marriage? It’s not always as clear – there are fewer external cues. Instead, there’s often just a feeling, a sense that things are shifting – which can manifest in different ways. Wondering what those are? Here are 3 signs you might be entering a new season, and what you need to know about each one. Read More
It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
Chances are, you’ve been on the receiving end of a snarky tone. You’ve probably even been the one dishing it out on occasion. The words themselves can be completely innocuous, but the tone with which they’re delivered can be the difference between a friendly, affectionate exchange and an escalating argument. We might think that our actual words should be most important, but the truth is, tone matters.
When it comes to communicating with your spouse, there are multiple ingredients that need to come together in the right way. If your words are the main protein, then things like tone and body language are the spices and seasonings you add that can make or break the dish. Here are 5 things to keep in mind when it comes to setting the tone: Read More
You track the stats of your favorite athletes and sports teams. You monitor your daily sleep and activity score on your watch or phone. Heck, you even tally points during a friendly game of Scrabble. Wouldn’t it also make sense to keep score in your marriage?
Most of us probably know the correct answer is no, but that doesn’t mean we don’t do it from time to time, even subconsciously. Maybe you’re keeping a mental tally of how often you’ve done one of your spouse’s usual chores, logging how much time they’ve spent on a solo hobby, or tracking how many times they’ve gotten up with the baby. Scorekeeping comes in many forms, but they all have one thing in common: Read More
Flexibility has always sort of been our thing. No, we didn’t come up with the concept, of course, but it’s one of the unique components of the Prepare/Enrich assessment. Part of the foundational research it’s built on comes in the form of the Couple and Family Maps. (If you’ve taken the assessment, you might be familiar with them!) We won’t get too into the details, but here’s the gist: the maps graph the levels of connection and flexibility in a couple’s relationship or the family they grew up in. The levels can be too high (chaotic), too low (rigid), midrange, or balanced. Research has shown that when flexibility is balanced, relationships are healthier and more resilient – and ultimately more likely to last. Here are three big reasons why: Read More
As a couple, you and your spouse will face countless decisions. From the minor yet incessant “What’s for dinner?”, to momentous yet infrequent ones like “Should we move for this job?” The choices you’ll have to make together fall on both ends of this spectrum, and everywhere in between.
Sometimes the choice is easy. One or both of you have the knowledge that’s necessary to make a smart and informed decision, and you’re aligned on the desired outcome and the path to get there. Done and done. Other times, it’s not so cut and dry. Maybe you and your spouse are new homeowners facing some unavoidable repairs. Neither of you has much experience or insight on the topic, but your father-in-law is a contractor. How much should his opinion weigh in your decision? Or perhaps you have a very close relationship with your parents and like to consult with them on most of your bigger decisions. How much say do they get? How much is too much? What factors complicate these dynamics? What should your end goal be? Let’s explore. Read More
Excuses, excuses. Everyone makes them from time to time, but no one really wants to be known as the person who always has an excuse. It can come off as immature, irresponsible, or defensive – not a good look. While making excuses gets you off the hook in the short-term, doing it habitually can prevent you from growing, evolving, or reaching your full potential in the long run – and it can have the same effect on your marriage.
Excuses can show up in different forms. We might make them for ourselves or for others. Typically we think of them in the context of actions or behaviors – why we did or didn’t do something, or for being or not being a certain way (“It’s just the way I am.”) Similar to defensiveness, making excuses is a defense mechanism that we use to protect ourselves from feeling inadequacy, criticism, shame, or guilt. Also like defensiveness, it can inhibit conflict resolution and perpetuate complacency, ultimately preventing you from being the best spouse you can be.
So what can you do if making excuses is driving a wedge between you and your spouse? Here are some steps to take. Read More
If you have children, you know how much planning goes into their wellbeing. You set their daily schedules, make appointments, and arrange childcare. You plan their birthday parties and register for summer camp months in advance. It seems non-negotiable – just part of being a parent.
You put lots of time, energy, and resources into making sure the upcoming months include what your kids needs to grow and thrive. Can you say the same about your marriage? Read More
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