Your 3-Course Conversation Menu

Sometimes the date night conversation flows easily – you effortlessly segue from one topic to the next, making each other laugh while still hitting those meaningful and sweet moments – and you only talked about the kids once!

Other times, it doesn’t click as smoothly. Maybe you’re both tired or irritable from a long week or an exhausting day. Or perhaps you’re just blanking on things to talk about. You don’t mind companionable silence, but sometimes you could use a little conversational boost. For those moments, we’ve created this three-course date conversation menu.

Pick and choose questions a la carte, or work your way through the whole thing like a tasting menu.

Starters

Whet your conversational appetite with these bite-sized prompts to help you understand your spouse’s headspace and get you calibrated toward connection.

• Describe how you’re feeling in one or two emojis. Text it to each other, then explain. Want to keep it device-free? Just use one or two words instead.
• On a scale of 1-5, how connected are you feeling to each other? Find the average of your individual answers. What do you want that number to be at the end of your date?
• What was the most memorable part of your day/week?
• What are you looking forward to – in general or on this date?

Entrees

Dive into a hearty main course with questions that help you reflect on things are going in your relationship and how you can make things even better.

• In what ways (big or small) do we try to show our love and commitment to each other?
• Do we always “receive” or acknowledge these attempts from each other? How do we show it?
• Talk about a recent time when you felt most loved.
• What can we do to make each other feel that more often?
• How do we feel about our current levels of quality time together?
• Are there any adjustments we can make to feel more balanced?
• What can we do to stay connected when we get really busy?
• What is your favorite way to spend quality time with each other?
• What makes you feel like a good partner/spouse?
• What is something you’ve been struggling with?
• What can I do to make your day a little easier?
• What do you feel like we’re doing well as a couple?
• What do you feel we could work on?

Dessert

Finish off the date with something fun and sweet.

• What fictional couple’s relationship do you identify with? Why?
• If your spouse was a dessert, what would they be? Why?
• What’s your favorite thing about your spouse that most people wouldn’t know?
• What do you want to do on your next date? Check your calendars and schedule it!

Next time the conversation falters on a date with your spouse or you simply want to put a spin on your typical routine, pull out this menu for some delectable discussion that leaves you feeling connected – and excited for your next date.