Simple Tips for Tackling Tasks Together

Every couple has them. Those tasks neither of you wants to do. They hang over you, needing to be done. But they’re tedious, annoying, intimidating, or simply unpleasant. Sometimes they even cause tension in your relationship.

However, marriage is about being a team. There’s no reason why that formidable to-do list has to get the best of you. Here are some simple ways you can tackle those tasks together.

If the task is boring, tedious, or unpleasant

Sure, it’s not always practical for both of you to spend time doing a task that really only requires one person, but sometimes a little company from your spouse is all that’s needed to make the time fly by and get the job done. Consider it multitasking – you’re creating an opportunity to connect while also crossing off those lingering chores. Inject some lighthearted fun into the activity by putting on your favorite tunes or even making a game out of it. You’ll be done before you know it!

If the task is big and daunting

When you’re facing a job that seems overwhelming, getting started is often the hardest part, and that often leads to procrastination. Whether you’re moving your family across the country, planning a DIY home renovation, or hosting a holiday with 40 of your relatives, working as a team is often your best bet. Why? Not only do you have two people to split the work, but you can also break the project up into smaller, more manageable chunks that are suited to each of your skills and interests. Schedule regular check-ins to update each other on how things are going and to make adjustments if needed. When you’ve reached the light at the end of the tunnel, take time to acknowledge and celebrate your teamwork and accomplishment.

If the task is something you don’t know how to do

Similar to when a task is really complex, if you both feel clueless about how to go about it, you’ll probably have a hard time taking the steps to get started. Turn it into a learning experience you can go through together. Do research together online (or separately and report back your findings), take classes, or meet up with friends or family who are knowledgable. It doesn’t have to be a chore that one of you slogs through on your own. Instead, make it a bonding experience that gives you skills and know-how you can use long-term.

If the task must be done by one of you alone

In some situations, completing the task together isn’t an option. In these cases, the other partner can still be a source of encouragement and support. Maybe it helps to talk things out and come up with a game plan together. If you or your partner is struggling with the task, it can be productive to think through what the obstacles are or what is holding the person back. And don’t be afraid to discuss ways that the other person can help.

If the task is one you don’t agree on

Sometimes you avoid a task because you disagree on how it should be done. Hearing each other out and being openminded will be key. Instead of focusing on whether your way is the right way, think about it from a team perspective. You both have the same end goal, so how can you work together to come up with the best solution? This might be combining your ideas, or maybe it’s trying one person’s method first. Whatever way ends up working for you, it’s a great opportunity to practice conflict resolution skills when the stakes are low.

With marriage comes responsibility – not just in the context of being a good spouse, but also in all of the things that make up the daily grind. Tasks, chores, projects, whatever you choose to call them, are part of your life together. They’e not always fun, but they don’t have to drag you down. Instead, they can be opportunities to work as a team, learn together, and connect. Getting them done is just a bonus!