25 Quick Marriage Pick-Me-Ups

It’s 2pm on a Wednesday. You’re dragging. Perhaps you’re feeling tired and low on energy, or your motivation and productivity have bottomed out. You need a pick-me-up, stat!

Whether it’s a fancy coffee from your favorite coffeeshop, a walk in nature, or a quick jam-out session in your car, the idea is the same: something small that lifts your mood and gives you a boost of energy.

Does it ever feel like your marriage could use something like this? Maybe you’ve both had a long week and you’re feeling a bit blah. Perhaps you were a bit short with each other as you left the house this morning or the kids have been sick so you’ve missed your last couple date nights. Whatever the reason, sometimes your marriage can use a little pick-me-up, too. Here are 25 quick ideas to try with your spouse.

1. 1. Send a sweet or spicy text, or even better – leave a handwritten note.
   2. Have a one-song dance party; play a song that has sentimental meaning or go the nostalgia route.
   3. Ask your spouse on a spur-of-the-moment date.
   4. Buy them a treat in the checkout line – maybe their favorite candy or a magazine they’d never buy for themselves.
   5. Share a new favorite song you’re listening to.
   6. Do something silly to make each other laugh – the more random the better.
   7. Stop in the middle of your chores for an ice cream break – keep some treats stocked at home!
   8. Order takeout for dinner – it sounds simple, but if it’s out of the ordinary for you, or you’re beat after a long day, it can work wonders.
   9. Give each other a long hug, kiss, or cuddle.
   10. Tell your spouse what you appreciated most about them today.
   11. Do an activity that gets your hearts pumping – whether it’s a quick jog or a retreat to the bedroom.
   12. Exchange heartfelt “I love you’s” – simple and obvious, but sometimes it’s just what you need to hear.
   13. Take turns giving each other a back rub.
   14. Leave work a little early and meet up for a drink.
   15. Have a last-minute movie night and watch an old favorite – snuggle up together with all the yummy snacks.
   16. Pray or meditate together.
   17. Reminisce about your wedding day – or any other special, fun, or funny moments in your marriage.
   18. Tell your kids why they’re lucky to have your spouse as a parent while your spouse is present.
   19. Take a relaxing bath or shower together.
   20. Get dressed up for each other, even if you’re not going out.
   21. Look through old photos together – it could be ones from when you were first dating or an album from your favorite vacation.
   22. Give each other a genuine compliment.
   23. Flirt with each other when you’re out with friends, home alone, or on a date.
   24. Surprise your spouse with a for-no-reason greeting card – go the funny or sentimental route, whatever floats your boat.
   25. Take turns sharing three things you’re grateful for.

Sometimes there’s no big conflict or issue that needs to be resolved. There’s no tough conversation that needs to happen. For the most part, things are good. But just like how your mood and energy can ebb and flow throughout the day, sometimes your marriage can benefit from a temporary lift as well. This list is just a start – what are you favorite marriage pick-me-ups?